Phyllis D. Cassidy

Please accept my most sincerest condolences on the loss of your Mother. Nothing can fill the void created by your loss but a Mother’s love is never far. May my condolences help bring you all peace and comfort during this painful time. - David Roland

The Eulogy delivered at the service: Mom One of the hardest parts about getting older, and there are many, is watching our loved ones pass. It is natural, it is part of God’s plan; we don’t always understand it, and it is difficult not to be overwhelmed by a crushing sense of loss. Loss of Hope, loss of Direction, loss of Innocence: worse, a loss of shared History; for our memories often make us who we are. And without those with whom we have shared our lives it is also natural to feel loss of a sense of place, to despair. The best way to combat (for life is a battle) loss and despair is to have others to share with. The devastation of these tragedies can be somewhat ameliorated by having others to love, having others to share joy and pain. I recommend having at least two friends. Three is probably optimal in case the others are on vacation. But four is too many. With four you run the risk of being ostentatious, and no one likes ostentatious. Or, if we are lucky, we may have already been assigned Family. And if we are very lucky, that Family may be great. Our Family is great. Together. Our Family can buoy and carry us through the various heartaches with which life decides to pummel us. My mom was the Heart of our Family. She was the bond which would not break. She stood: small, tall and fearless against any threat to her children, against any threat implicit or explicit to her Family. She took punches for us, again and again, and still she stood always for us. She was exceptionally proud of us her 3 children, more proud of her 400 grandchildren, and even, if this is possible, even more-er proud of her 2 billion and counting great grandchildren. Her Faith; in God, her Faith in us, her unshakable Faith in her Family despite my obvious and undeniable flaws was truly remarkable. Her sense of duty, her dedication to her craft, was legendary; and shall not ever be forgotten by those with whom she has shared an occupation. I would be surprised if she was not right now calling her boss- directly from heaven - to inform them she’ll be a little late today. But she will be there, On duty, Watching out for the children the way she always watched out for us; Small, Standing Tall, And Fearless!

I was going to read this before the eulogy but didn't get a chance to. My cousin Kevin and I used to be brought over to mom-moms house and left for the week, weekend, or some other amount of time our parents wanted us out of their hair. Mostly it was separate, but occasionally we would crash at her house together. Kevin and I were over together one summer week and, as usual, grandmom put us to work. I think we were repainting the deck and weeding the surrounding flower beds. Mom-mom, never one to shy away from hard work, joined us outside with the difficult task of supervision. She would sit in one of the outside chairs drinking her coffee and reading the paper while watching us work. Eventually Kevin or I asked her about it and her response has been with me since. She said, “This is my favorite activity, watching you two do hard work and sweat while I relax.”

Please accept my deepest sympathies. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.

Please accept my deepest sympathies. Phyllis was such a sweet and kind lady. May she Rest In Peace I am sorry I can not make the viewing or service as I am out of town that day. But know that my thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.

Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.